pervocracy:

someuphillbattle:

Consent is like….the absolute minimum. Sex can be unhealthy, damaging, and traumatic without being criminal, and you have an ethical, if not legal, responsibility to do everything possible to avoid hurting your partner.

I want to add some examples to this, because I think it’s important to emphasize that this mostly isn’t rocket science, nor is it some vague “just remember to doubt yourself in everything you do!”  It’s stuff like this:

• Don’t cheat.
  
• Don’t expose people to STIs without their knowledge.
  
• Don’t take advantage of someone who’s going through a crisis by offering them “sexual healing.”
  
• Don’t have sex with a student, employee, or someone who otherwise might not be free to say no to you.
  
• Don’t ignore signs that consent is being given reluctantly.
  
• Don’t rules-lawyer or look for loopholes in consent.
  
• If you know someone is new to an activity that you’re experienced in, don’t throw them in the deep end for their first time.
  
• Don’t do any of the above to yourself, either.
  

This isn’t meant to be a complete list or anything, just a sense that this isn’t an abstract topic.  There are concrete examples of how consensual sex can still be unethical.